Stop. This. Ish. NOW. It isn't cute and the comparison is false.
Yes, the N word is a singularly nasty word that some feel is the mother of all slurs. I understand that. It's a word that I don't allow to enter my mind, let alone, spew from my mouth.
Still, to equate slurs like the R word for someone with intellectual disabilities, the F word for a Gay man, the M word for someone of short stature or the term Gimp for people with disabilities is a false comparison.
Why? Because the N word has it's own specific and horrific history, unlike any other slur. In fact, the same can be said of any slur - each has it's own history. Each hurts in a specific way to a specific group that is different from the other. Some are so terrible that no matter how prolific its use, they can never really be reclaimed. Some are only just beginning to be recognized as slurs, while others are being reclaimed by they very groups that they were meant to hurt.
So, when some White folks say that the slur for little people, disabled people or an LGBTQ person is the same as the N word, I say, hold on - have you ever been called that word? Do you know on a visceral level what it feels like to have that particular word hurled at you with all of its specific, hateful history aimed straight at you? No? Then, how can you say that the slurs are the same?
As a Black Disabled Lesbian, I've had all manner of slurs from each group I belong to spat at me and trust me, each feels different! They all are bad, but not in the sense of what's worse than the other. They all hurt, but the hurt is in different ways.
I see what's going on. In the politically correct world, to be called the N word is seen to be the worst thing because people who consider themselves to be decent, fair people would never want to be accused of being a racist or using racial slurs. They'd rather drop the F bomb thirty times in one sentence than be accused of using that word. So, to illustrate their distaste for a certain word, they equate it to the N word.
That includes actions, too. Over the past few months, I've heard people with disabilities compare Hollywood's practice of casting nondisabled actors in roles as disabled characters to blackface, the practice of casting White actors to portray Black characters and using black paint on their faces to simulate Blackness, which was a common practice in the early and mid 20th century. I spoke out against that comparison and continue to do so because the two are NOT the same. Blackface was specifically meant to put Black people down, to caricaturize us, to present us as buffoons. It's intent was clear. Using nondisabled actors to play the part of disabled people because the industry feels that actors with disabilities lack the talent or stamina is ableism. Racism and ableism are two different systems of oppression. Equating the two is the erasure of both, because due to intersectionality, the systems of oppression sometimes overlap.
So, let's stop equating slurs, words and unfair practices with the N word and forms of anti-Black racism because they arise from different historical contexts, and if you are White, you can never truly know or understand the Black experience to make such comparisons.